It is generally accepted that men change women more often. Why is it so difficult for them to remain true? The author of an anonymous letter shocking frankness reflects on this.

Why am I cheating? Because infidelity exacerbates the memory. Everything recedes into the background, when I look at the naked back of an unfamiliar woman, slightly bending on the sheets in the rays of the evening sun in the room of the suburban hotel. This is the most honest choice I can make. I am alone here in spite of all the codes and rules that I pretensively obey. Contrary to common sense, back thoughts and wisdom of years, at that moment I do not regret anything. I want to be here. I voted for this, announced it, and I feel the blood running through my veins. I’m alive. I am equivalent to myself.

It is believed that men are incorrect, because they have such an opportunity. It’s true, it’s easy to change. We almost leave no evidence. The checklist does not require much-to wash here and there, to enlist the sympathy of the woman with whom you sleep, choose the right meeting place and monitor the time. But by and large, infidelity is very easy to hide. Much more often than any man is able to admit, she does not have any consequences.

But men are not changing because they can, but because they should, they need it. This is a masculine need. She makes us change again and again. Because sex should not be predetermined and planned. This is not a story about two personalities that are intended to meet in a dark night, this is a case.

You probably know that love for life is a lie, and monogamous love is a deception. If you change, these ideas direct you. This does not mean that you are not able to love. This does not mean that you do not want the fact that love or even marriage can offer you. Paradox. You live in accordance with your beliefs and do not deceive yourself. But you have to adapt to generally accepted lies.

And you have to follow the rules. It is only worth sleeping with those who have the same risks. The phrase “You don’t guess where you eat” acquires a meaning when you have a service novel. You never use the words “love”, even in the context of love making. You do not have sex with too young, able to fall in love with you, or schizophrenic. Do not boast of your connection with a celebrity. You stay away from your friends’s wives. If you have a lover in another city, then you do not visit him only for sex. These rules are the fruits of difficult experience, and there are even more. I am changing spontaneously.

Fidelity – a test that forces you to ignore your capabilities, drowns out any sense of victory

At home, I am attentive to family duties. This is something like a test, and men need tests. Fidelity – a test that pushes a man with his own instincts, forces to ignore his capabilities, drowns out any sense of victory. Marriage leads the middle guy from everything that he once knew about himself. And some guys go through this test. They succeed. And I like to listen to their nonsense. All these conversations “I love my wife so much”, which the Moralist morons lead behind the cocktail. I do not interfere, do not touch them. Men do not quarrel because of such things.

I also love my wife, but it does not concern anyone. And as a rule, this nonsense is carried by people who look on the way home in a strip club, look at porn in their offices and periodically visit dating sites, changing the quota they highlighted. I’m not doing anything like. My home life is clean. I’m better focused on it than they. I better correspond to what surrounds me – my family, my wife, my work. In a sense, this is so because I’m not afraid to change.

Treason is when the body affirms its superiority over the soul, the triumph of the genetic need, the victory of the desired over the obligatory

You learn a lot when you change, and you also laugh a

lot. It happens that you open more with a woman with whom you spent 45 minutes than with the one with whom you lived 45 years. You are not obliged to change, you are free to choose. It is worried. Because more than anything, treason is when the body affirms its superiority over the soul, the triumph of the genetic need, the victory of the desired over the mandatory.

This does not mean that changing well or that I will promote infidelity. I don’t care how you live. I just explain why men are cheating. This is a mathematics of their reproductive system, a by -product of a longer life, exhausting work, high overload. This is a consequence of an instinctive refusal to sacrifice their own needs in the name of the notorious and obsolete marriage apparatus.